Appreciating Inner Beauty

Appreciating Inner Beauty

Right now, we are in unprecedented times. If you’re reading this post-2020 we are in lockdown now. Salons and barbers are closes, fashion and make-up no longer seems a priority. Now many people are, thankfully, taking the time to start appreciating inner beauty rather than just focusing on what is going on on the outside. Finding your inner beauty might seem like a simple thing to do, but in practice, it can be quite hard. You look amazing on the outside, and you have impeccable fashion taste, but how do you feel on the inside? You might have to do a lot of soul searching, and thinking about your past behaviour and where that could take you in the future, to truly answer this question. 

Some changes have to be made to ensure the real you can blossom and shine, and allow you to really release the inner beauty you were born with and have cultivated your whole life. Let’s consider a few things you could think about to help yourself feel more esteemable, and like you’ve got a lot more to offer. 

Appreciating Inner Beauty: Think About Who You Love

The people around you each and every day are the people you mostly choose to be there – what do they have in common? Because the traits we surround ourselves with speaks to who we are inside, or who we would like to be, and that could be very inspiring once you start to notice this. 

Maybe they’re all different in their own little way, but that too can be a common trait in someone’s loved ones; maybe you like something quirky or off the beaten track. But how does that relate to your inner beauty? It means you find goodness in small or different things, and that can mean you’re a person who values people, and not what they do or where they come from. You’re passionate, and appreciate what’s in front of you. As someone who is very keen on mindfulness practices, this point strikes a chord with me.

Think About How You Spend Your Days

What does your average day look like? And what do you think of a day like this? Because what we do can dictate a lot of how we think and behave, and it’s time to notice that. It’s a big part of inner beauty, and you might need to work on the effects of your current schedule. 

Even if you’re someone who considers a facelift as an option right now, because the mirror is looking back differently these days, the person we are inside only changes and evolves when we let it. When we take in what we see each and every day, and allow ourselves to learn from it and think about the impacts of these words and behaviours, do we help ourselves to grow into bigger and better versions of ourselves. 

Think About What Inspires You

And finally, going back to the point above, think about what fills you with energy when you look at it. What gets you pumped and ready to go, and makes you think of yourself in a better way? Because when you find something that inspires you, you need to surround yourself with it, to ensure your inner beauty has a chance to shine out. 

We all have inner beauty, and it’s time to prioritise it. Lean into yourself, and let it out. Journalling can be a really go way to unpack the answers to these questions. This is something I’m doing a lot of at the moment,

Your Period: What’s Normal

Your Period: What’s Normal

Your period – the one week (if you are lucky) of the month than most women dread. I’ve never met anyone who looks forward to their period and all that comes with it, i.e the pain, the cramps, the hormone swings. For some, it’s accompanied by headaches and nausea, too. We haven’t suffered enough, right? 

For some women, the pain of their period is more than what a couple of paracetamol can fix. It’s more than just a day or two of bad hormones and eating all the chocolate. It’s a chronic pain condition, with no seeming end to the pain for two weeks a month. The worst thing about it is that chronic pain is often a symptom of a larger issue, so what some women think are just bad periods is actually something bigger. PCOS, something I have is one example. Endometriosis, another, is a condition where the cells that are usually found in the lining of the womb decide to toddle off to other parts of the body where they are not welcome. They’ll bleed no matter where they are in the body, which means that those with endometriosis are in severe and chronic pain.

So, how do you tell what’s normal (bearing in mind all women are different) and what’s not? How do you know what you’re feeling is just your period and not endometriosis? 

  1. If the pain is getting in the way of your daily routine, you need to think about whether this is something that you can manage or not. Pain happens with a period, and sometimes that pain takes your breath away. However, if you’re fainting, throwing up or unable to move from the foetal position, then you need a doctor to see what’s going on.
  2. Your cramping is supposed to be in your stomach, lower back and possibly the tops of your legs when you have your period. Exercise, painkillers and sleep should help. With endometriosis? The pain can also be in the liver, the lungs and other areas of the abdomen that don’t involve the pelvic organs.
  3. Period pain is cyclical, so the week leading up to/during/after your period is usually filled with hormones, but the actual cramping is usually going to occur on the days you are physically bleeding. With endometriosis, you’re dealing with possible scar tissue which can cause pain whenever it wants to. 
  4. Pain after sex should always be reported to a doctor, and if you have pain after regular sex, you need investigation. Endometriosis can cause this, and it may not flare just on your period but the rest of the month, too.
  5. Lastly, if you experience pain while you’re on the toilet, you need to speak to the doc. It may not be endometriosis-related, and it may not be period related, either. Speak to the doctor and you’ll know whether the pain you feel during your bowel movements while on your period are normal or not.

Don’t be dismissive when it comes to your period if things don’t seem right or you are experiencing more pain than expected.