Life’s Most Stressful Moments

Life’s Most Stressful Moments

There is much to love about life. It’s easy to forget that we’re only here once (we assume), and that is pretty special. It’s a gift that we should cherish. However, there’s no denying that life isn’t just one long jaunt through the fields. There are tough moments too, and sooner or later, you’ll have to deal with them. While sometimes there’s no avoiding the fact that you have to go through bad periods, sometimes being aware of them can help to soften the blow.  I look at examples of life’s most stressful moments and offer some tips on how to navigate them as well as possible.

Life’s Most Stressful Moments: Moving Home

We tend to think of moving property as a positive experience, and ultimately, that’s what it’ll hopefully prove to be. However, it’s important to remember that the actual act of moving can be stressful, even if you’re just moving to a house located down the street. There are just so many things to do, and it’s a fact that we’re creatures of habit. Uprooting ourselves and placing ourselves somewhere else can be a challenge, even if we’ll ultimately call it home. To reduce the stress, it’s best to plan as much as you can in advance, and also to embrace the fact that it’s going to be chaotic. This is just something that you can’t control.

To avoid this move hitting your list of life’s most stressful moments make sure you get as much help as you can, be realistic about the mess and the upheaval and give yourself a break from time to time.

Going Through a Divorce

The end of a relationship is never nice. You’ve built something together, and the truth is that even if you know it was the right decision, it takes time to get used to single life. Things become even more complicated when you’re getting a divorce. At that stage, your life is strongly intertwined with the other person, and dealing with all the details can be very stressful, especially if there are children involved. Perhaps the best advice is to do what you have to do, and be patient. You will eventually make it through to the other side.

The Death of a Loved One

Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Even if you knew it was on the horizon, it’s still the most painful emotional experience that a person can endure. While there’ll always be stress involved, there are things you can do that’ll make things easier to bear. Surrounding yourself with loved ones, allowing yourself to feel all the emotions, working with professional funeral directors to say a proper goodbye will all help. Beyond that, it’s all about trying to put one foot in front of another and having faith that it will pass.

Strongly consider grief counselling for yourself and your family. Not everyone’s journey is the same when it come to grieving and therefore a little help finding the best path forward can make all the difference.

Life’s Most Stressful Moments: Global Events

Sometimes stress comes from our own situation. At other times, it’s because of global situations. The state of the world can get us down in abstract ways, such as the threat of climate change or uncertainty surrounding the economy, at other times in direct ways, such as the coronavirus pandemic. During these times, it’s a good idea to focus on community. Humans have shown we can get through anything when we’re on the same side. 

What would you consider life’s most stressful moments? What tips might you share with others for reducing the stress or moving past the other emotions that come with big life changes?

 

Appreciating Inner Beauty

Appreciating Inner Beauty

Right now, we are in unprecedented times. If you’re reading this post-2020 we are in lockdown now. Salons and barbers are closes, fashion and make-up no longer seems a priority. Now many people are, thankfully, taking the time to start appreciating inner beauty rather than just focusing on what is going on on the outside. Finding your inner beauty might seem like a simple thing to do, but in practice, it can be quite hard. You look amazing on the outside, and you have impeccable fashion taste, but how do you feel on the inside? You might have to do a lot of soul searching, and thinking about your past behaviour and where that could take you in the future, to truly answer this question. 

Some changes have to be made to ensure the real you can blossom and shine, and allow you to really release the inner beauty you were born with and have cultivated your whole life. Let’s consider a few things you could think about to help yourself feel more esteemable, and like you’ve got a lot more to offer. 

Appreciating Inner Beauty: Think About Who You Love

The people around you each and every day are the people you mostly choose to be there – what do they have in common? Because the traits we surround ourselves with speaks to who we are inside, or who we would like to be, and that could be very inspiring once you start to notice this. 

Maybe they’re all different in their own little way, but that too can be a common trait in someone’s loved ones; maybe you like something quirky or off the beaten track. But how does that relate to your inner beauty? It means you find goodness in small or different things, and that can mean you’re a person who values people, and not what they do or where they come from. You’re passionate, and appreciate what’s in front of you. As someone who is very keen on mindfulness practices, this point strikes a chord with me.

Think About How You Spend Your Days

What does your average day look like? And what do you think of a day like this? Because what we do can dictate a lot of how we think and behave, and it’s time to notice that. It’s a big part of inner beauty, and you might need to work on the effects of your current schedule. 

Even if you’re someone who considers a facelift as an option right now, because the mirror is looking back differently these days, the person we are inside only changes and evolves when we let it. When we take in what we see each and every day, and allow ourselves to learn from it and think about the impacts of these words and behaviours, do we help ourselves to grow into bigger and better versions of ourselves. 

Think About What Inspires You

And finally, going back to the point above, think about what fills you with energy when you look at it. What gets you pumped and ready to go, and makes you think of yourself in a better way? Because when you find something that inspires you, you need to surround yourself with it, to ensure your inner beauty has a chance to shine out. 

We all have inner beauty, and it’s time to prioritise it. Lean into yourself, and let it out. Journalling can be a really go way to unpack the answers to these questions. This is something I’m doing a lot of at the moment,