Life’s Most Stressful Moments

Life’s Most Stressful Moments

There is much to love about life. It’s easy to forget that we’re only here once (we assume), and that is pretty special. It’s a gift that we should cherish. However, there’s no denying that life isn’t just one long jaunt through the fields. There are tough moments too, and sooner or later, you’ll have to deal with them. While sometimes there’s no avoiding the fact that you have to go through bad periods, sometimes being aware of them can help to soften the blow.  I look at examples of life’s most stressful moments and offer some tips on how to navigate them as well as possible.

Life’s Most Stressful Moments: Moving Home

We tend to think of moving property as a positive experience, and ultimately, that’s what it’ll hopefully prove to be. However, it’s important to remember that the actual act of moving can be stressful, even if you’re just moving to a house located down the street. There are just so many things to do, and it’s a fact that we’re creatures of habit. Uprooting ourselves and placing ourselves somewhere else can be a challenge, even if we’ll ultimately call it home. To reduce the stress, it’s best to plan as much as you can in advance, and also to embrace the fact that it’s going to be chaotic. This is just something that you can’t control.

To avoid this move hitting your list of life’s most stressful moments make sure you get as much help as you can, be realistic about the mess and the upheaval and give yourself a break from time to time.

Going Through a Divorce

The end of a relationship is never nice. You’ve built something together, and the truth is that even if you know it was the right decision, it takes time to get used to single life. Things become even more complicated when you’re getting a divorce. At that stage, your life is strongly intertwined with the other person, and dealing with all the details can be very stressful, especially if there are children involved. Perhaps the best advice is to do what you have to do, and be patient. You will eventually make it through to the other side.

The Death of a Loved One

Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Even if you knew it was on the horizon, it’s still the most painful emotional experience that a person can endure. While there’ll always be stress involved, there are things you can do that’ll make things easier to bear. Surrounding yourself with loved ones, allowing yourself to feel all the emotions, working with professional funeral directors to say a proper goodbye will all help. Beyond that, it’s all about trying to put one foot in front of another and having faith that it will pass.

Strongly consider grief counselling for yourself and your family. Not everyone’s journey is the same when it come to grieving and therefore a little help finding the best path forward can make all the difference.

Life’s Most Stressful Moments: Global Events

Sometimes stress comes from our own situation. At other times, it’s because of global situations. The state of the world can get us down in abstract ways, such as the threat of climate change or uncertainty surrounding the economy, at other times in direct ways, such as the coronavirus pandemic. During these times, it’s a good idea to focus on community. Humans have shown we can get through anything when we’re on the same side. 

What would you consider life’s most stressful moments? What tips might you share with others for reducing the stress or moving past the other emotions that come with big life changes?

 

IVF and Adoption, Which is Right For You?

IVF and Adoption, Which is Right For You?

Wanting children is a natural part of growing older for a lot of people. What isn’t, however, is the possibility of needing fertility assistance in order to have children. Although fertility treatments are quite commonly used, that doesn’t mean people naturally know which procedure(s) is right for them. Many ask the question “IVF and Adoption, which is best for us?” and the answer isn’t always straightforward. Much depends on your personal circumstances and where you live.

When trying to get pregnant the first time we had many problems, very hard times and at one point we were told we wouldn’t conceive naturally and I may not be able to successfully carry. While, despite my fertility issue, we managed to conceive two healthy babies eventually, there was a time we thought we might be looking at different options. Many are in the same boat.

If you’re in a position where you need to decide between IVF and adoption, it’s important that you take into consideration the positives and negatives for each. Both options will allow you to have that family you desire, however, they won’t get you there in the same way; this is what leaves people so undecided about what to do. 

IVF and Adoption: Adoption

When it comes to adoption, it’s important to make clear that the likelihood of adopting a baby can be rare depending on where you live. This is because babies are in such high demand. As a result, you’ll need to be open to adopting a child older than what you’d like, e.g. if you wanted a baby, you need to consider the possibility of adopting a toddler instead. For a lot of potential parents, the idea of having anything other than a baby isn’t feasible.

If, however, you’re open to adopting a child of any age, then you need to be aware that adoption isn’t guaranteed. The process is a thorough one, and while many different walks of people are encouraged to try for adoption, not all of them will get through. Although frustrating, the positive to take from this is that you’ll always be told why you failed in your application, thus giving you a chance to rectify it. Nonetheless, with an estimated two year wait for finalising adoption, some people turn to IVF for a quicker outcome. 

IVF and Adoption: IVF

In contrast to adoption, undergoing IVF ensures that you not only have a baby from the start, but that you get to experience the uniqueness of childbearing. For those who want to be involved in every stage of their child’s’ lives, this is by far the better option for them. However, it’s by no means the least stressful, as there are still tests for defects, health issues, and various other hurdles that could interfere along the way. 

As for guarantees, IVF is much like adoption in that it can’t promise you a successful treatment. Your healthcare providers will always do their best, but sometimes it’ll take two or three cycles for treatment to succeed, and even then, sometimes failure still happens. Although it’s a difficult thought to consider, by understanding and preparing for this side of IVF, you can better approach the situation if it does affect you. Hopefully, you won’t have to wait long for success, but you need to be prepared in case you have to.

Having children is wonderful and challenging no matter which route you take. The important part of your decision is to make sure you consider all the information and then go with what’s best for your future family. Make sure that you explore all avenues, including IVF and adoption, but don’t forget that counselling and support plays a large part in starting a family. This is especially true when things don’t go as you’d planned. 

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