Supporting Children Through Loss

Supporting Children Through Loss

Loss is difficult for all of us. When we lose someone that we love, it’s hard to understand, we feel a conflicting range of emotions, and it can be hard to just carry on with “normal” life. For children, it can be even harder which is why supporting children through loss as best you can is so important.

Touch wood and all of that, my two haven’t be touched by a bereavement yet. It is bound to happen at some point and as these things usually happen without notice we’ve had to talk between ourselves as parents about how we will handle such a situation.

Losing someone that you love is horrible, but at least as adults, we’re able to comprehend what has happened. For kids, the idea of someone never coming back can be hard to understand. Unfortunately, however, it’s an unavoidable thing. If you are lucky, your child’s first loss will happen when they are a little older and able to understand better, but there’s never going to be a good time. Here are some tips to help you help them at such a difficult time.

Supporting Children Through Loss: Use Simple Words

When talking about death, try not to overcomplicate things. You might have a lot of questions yourself, and you might spend time trying to understand what has happened, but your children don’t need these added burdens. Explain that someone has passed away and that you won’t be able to see them anymore. If you can, try to relate it to things that they do understand, perhaps something that they might have seen on TV, or the death of a family pet.

Talk About Your Own Feelings

Your child might never have experienced any emotions like these, or sadness on this level. They can find it confusing, and wonder if what they are feeling is right. Bottling up your own feelings, and hiding your sadness will only make things worse.

Don’t feel like you have to be strong for them. It’s actually more helpful to show them how you feel when supporting children through loss. Talk about how you grieve, and the things that you feel, rant if you need to. But also spend time remembering the person together. Talk about them, share stories and memories and make sure they know that this is ok. Death doesn’t have to mean that that person can’t still be a part of our lives. That’s how we are choosing to look at someone special passing on.

Talk About the Next Steps

Whether you want your child to attend the funeral is up to you. Your decision should be based on their age, how much they understand, and their own feelings about it. Either way, it’s a good idea to talk about the funeral, and what happens next. Tell them about headstones and funeral traditions. Explain what happens and what it means. Give them an idea of what different people believe, as well as your own beliefs, without forcing any upon them.

It’s also a good idea to talk about the wake (if this is something that your family is likely to do). Tell them that friends and family come together to share their memories and celebrate the life of the lost. Let them know that many people find this comforting, and it can be the start of feeling better. Tell them that it is ok to be happy and to laugh if they want to.

Answer Their Questions

Your child is bound to have a lot of questions. Be honest with them and answer what you can. If they ask something that you don’t know, or about something that you don’t believe, ask if they want to research together.

We’ve looked at supporting children through loss as a topic a fair bit and these are the important points that stand out to us too. Hopefully none of us will have to use any of these methods any time soon.

Sussex : Great Things To Do With Children

Sussex : Great Things To Do With Children

I may have already mentioned that we have booked a few days away for May half term. We are excited, to say the least. We’re going to the Lake District and can’t wait. Now the boys are a little older we are looking forward to exploring more of the UK. We have a few places on our list including going down south, to Sussex.

When you have young children and teens (I have one of both) you need to put a lot more thought and consideration into your holidays. Some children are notorious for getting bored easily, and thus you need to find somewhere that offers a lot of fun activities and things to do. More so though we need to find Sussex based activities that suits all of us!

Sussex is well known for being a county that boasts a vast selection of different things to do and see. In fact, this is one of the reasons why it is such a popular holiday destination. Read on to discover all of the fun things you and your children can enjoy whilst staying in self-catering properties in Sussex and the surrounding areas.

Fishers Farm Park, Wisborough Green, West Sussex

You will find it difficult to discover someone who has not enjoyed themselves at the Fishers Farm Park. This is an attraction which has something for the whole family. In fact, it was recently labelled one of the best farm attractions in the UK.  There is everything from animal racing, to tractor rides, to theatre shows, to toboggan runs, and so much more.

Pooh Corner, Hartfield, East Sussex

If you have Winnie the Pooh fans in your family then a stay in Sussex would not be complete without taking a trip to the Pooh Corner. The attraction is free to enter and your little ones can go on the hunt for their favourite Winnie the Pooh characters. Will you be able to spot Tigger and Eeyore? There is only one way to find out! I’m more excited about this one than my children are. You have to grow old, you don’t have to grow up!

Aztec Fun Pools, Burgess Hill, West Sussex

A trip to a swimming pool activity centre is something a lot of families like to do together. The Aztec Fun Pools are assured to go down a treat with your children. As the name suggests; fun is something this Burgess Hill based business is not short of. There is something for all ages. The shallow learning pool is great for really young children. Then there are the rapids, waterfalls, high-speed flume rides, and water sprays for those who are a bit older and like a thrill. Or you can meet in the middle with the animal water features and waterslide. This place is at the top of my list as it caters for everyone and is more affordable than you might think.

Drusillas Zoo Park, Alfriston, East Sussex

This small zoo has been created with youngsters in mind. It is not as scary and intimidating as other big zoos you will find in the country. Drusillas Zoo Park has a much friendlier atmosphere and most young children feel completely at ease with the animals here. The adventure play park is also a big highlight. Your kids will love getting lost in Eden’s Eye Maze or taking a dip in the swimming area. And, if your child is a Thomas the Tank engine fan, then even better. The Zoo Park has a Thomas the Tank Engine train ride that takes you on a tour of the exciting zoo. My two are animal mad so this is bound to be a winner.

Sussex seems to be a location which is great for all ages, but it offers something particularly special for children. Everything I’ve seen about it, including the four places above we’ve decided to try out, seem geared towards the who family while still being fun for the youngest. Let me know if you live in or near Sussex or if you’ve visited on holiday and have any other tips for places to go (that won’t break the bank).

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