Positive Outlooks When Getting Older

Positive Outlooks When Getting Older

Getting older sucks, but some people handle it better than others. Some do find it hard. On a brighter note, though, it is possible to help your spouse rediscover those positive outlooks. I’ll use a spouse as an example. Identifying the source of your loved one’s troubles is an essential ingredient in the recipe for success. Nonetheless, some problems are far more common than others. Here are four lifestyle changes that address the most common issues and how you can help, if help is wanted and needed.

1| Help Them Regain A Youthful Look

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look your best. When getting older a little help with this can be appreciated. If they are concerned you can help your loved one knock a few years off of their look, and often change of mentality will follow. How we look and our self-esteem can often be linked. Hair transplants are perhaps the most significant transformation. Especially as baldness can harm a person’s confidence. Even smaller changes such as a change of clothing style should bring a noticeable change in next to no time.

A more youthful appearance can trick the mind into feeling younger. This will encourage your loved one to regain their positive outlooks.

2| Encourage A Fitness Regime

A fitness routine isn’t necessarily just about shedding the pounds. Increased flexibility and pain-free movement can really enhance the way your loved one feels. Therefore, encouraging them to embrace the benefits of yoga can be as useful as lifting weights or hitting the treadmill. When they feel physically stronger and supple, the benefits in their daily life are enormous.

It’s also an opportunity to spend more time together as a couple. What more could either of you ever ask for from a new fitness plan?

3| Support Their Business Dreams

Our careers consume a huge percentage of our lives. When we’re young, we all have aspirations of achieving great things. Sadly, it’s very easy to get stuck in a rut as we get older. Whether it’s encouraging an entrepreneur to host a corporate event or a worker to chase a promotion doesn’t matter. The psychological impacts of relighting the fire can work wonders. Moreover, the financial rewards gained from hitting those goals and targets will unlock new prospects.

Most importantly, though, it can make your partner feel like a new person. It will show in other aspects of their life to further support the youthful vibe.

4| Encourage Positive Outlooks By Celebrating Their Hobbies

Enjoyment of leisure time is something heavily linked to your youth. So, one of the best ways to support a loved one in this quest for youthful happiness is to focus on an old hobby. From playing an instrument to watching a local sports team, time spent doing things they did in previous years is amazing. Once again, this is something that can be enjoyed as a couple. You can even learn to love each other’s pastimes. Roy and I, for example, both share a keen love for Dungeons and Dragons and the joy this shared hobby brings is something we hope to experience for many years.

Connecting with youthful feelings in this way can truly transform the outlook on life for both of you. Work together on helping each other as a couple, and your lives will be better than ever.


Maintaining Positive Relationships

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Roy and I have been married for 15 years and together a few more than that. I’m very lucky in that I didn’t just marry the man I love, I married my best friend. We have people ask us (we’re both very soppy when it comes to each other) how we’ve kept our marriage going so well so here are some things for anyone to consider. We’re not marriage guidance counsellors but these are good all-rounders for working on positive relationships, be this a partnership, marriage or friendship.

Spend Some Quality Time Together

Make sure you spend regular, quality time together. Get away from social media, the TV, and technology, and focus on one another for a while. You could go on weekends away, one date night per week or fortnight, or even plan regular vacations. Just bear in mind that one break every so often is unlikely to be enough to bring you and your partner closer together if you’re not spending enough time together during the week. We have busy weeks, children and all sorts going on but still make time to have date nights, even if they are in the house! It’s all about making time in your busy life to build and enjoy positive relationships.

Reconnect With Yourself

Work on finding your own passions and hobbies, spending time with family and friends, and enjoying yourself. When you’re in a better place personally and mentally, you stand to make your relationship far better with your partner, with family and with friends. Self care is important! When you and your partner aren’t happy in yourselves, it’s going to be virtually impossible to be happy with one another.

Be Creative In Showing Your Love

Find new and exciting ways to show your love to one another. Be creative, whether it’s writing one another love letters, making fancy dinners, or dressing up just to spend time with them. Show them that you still care in different ways and it’ll bring some novelty into your relationship – something all relationships need to stay fresh. For example, we don’t do Valentine’s Day, it just isn’t our thing but we surprise each other with daft and funny things at random times. These make us laugh and create shared positive memories.

Deal With Intimacy Issues

Thankfully this isn’t something we’ve ever had a problem with, but in the spirit of producing a well-rounded blog post with tips for all, it’s worth including. Intimacy is another important key to any relationship and feeling close to your partner. Work on ways you can be more intimate with one another, whether that’s saying how you really feel, or working on ways you can become more intimate in the bedroom. If you’re having problems in that regard, you could look at some treatment options for impotence, or something more suited to your problem. 

Bond Over Common Hobbies And Interests

Couples find that they bond more effectively over common hobbies and interests. If you both love art, go to galleries together. If you love thrifting, head to markets. If you love food, just try out new places to eat! There are probably all kinds of things you can do to bring you together and feel closer than ever before. For Roy and I, it is Dungeons and Dragons, shared geekery and more. It’s the same with our friendships, we all have things in common such as hobbies and interests.

Practice Communicating for Positive Relationships

Poor communication is one of the most common reasons that a relationship breaks down. I have seen real-world examples of this time and time again. Be it a married or a friendship, it’s important to be able to communicate openly and honestly.

Live In The Moment

Rather than living in the past or worrying about the future, try to live in the moment. Have more fun together spontaneously, and really make the most of your time together. There’s nothing worse than spending time with somebody who’s mind just isn’t there! After completing a mindfulness diploma last year I’ve found living in the moment fun and getting the most out of my time with people I have positive relationships with also easier!


Positive relationships make for a happier life, they really do. Surrounding yourself with people who understand you, who you understand, who are on the same wavelength and have shared interests is what makes for fun times, great memories and support for each other when needed. Make sure that you take time to nurture the important relationships in your life.