Finding Friendships


A lot of us take friendship for granted. Some of us might have had a group of friends at school that we keep in touch with or might have met new yet equally valuable friends as adults. Friendships don’t come easily to everyone though. Workmates and school playground acquaintances aren’t necessarily friends as such, although may be pleasant enough to spend time with. How do you meet new people and forge friendships as adults though?

Life is busy. There’s work, juggling the demands of family and everyday chores and obligations, all of which leave very little time for you to court friendships. For some people, employing True Pheromones to enhance their existing connections might be something to consider. For others, it may be a case of getting out there to see if you can add to your circle of people. There are a number of ways to meet new people and garner new friendships though if you’re willing to try something new. 

Book Clubs

Please don’t think that book clubs are for the elderly or the boring, far from it. If you have a passion for reading and lively debate you might be surprised to find that your local book club is full of members of all ages, genders and interests. If the reviews of the movie The Book Club are anything to go by I’d say that joining a book club could be an excellent idea.

Singles Cruise Holidays

We’re not talking raunchy here, we’re talking about specialist cruise ship holidays designed with encouraging new friendships in mind. Who knows? You could go on a single’s cruise holiday and meet your new best friend.

Be a Volunteer & Forge New Friendships

Volunteering is a worthwhile pastime in many ways. Not only are you supporting a valuable charity or organisation in need, you are putting yourself in a position to meet new people. For example, our local library is volunteer-run entirely and requires over 40 volunteers to take short shifts over the course of a week in order to keep it open. With times to suit you, a volunteer position like this could be great in terms of not taking up too much of your time yet opening you up to the possibility of forging new relationships.


As someone who couldn’t run if her bum was on fire, I’m not suggesting that you suddenly take on weekly Park Runs. Exercise is however great for your health and with so many different ways to exercise open to you it can be a great way to meet new like-minded people. Join a local rambling or walking group, go to yoga class, dance if that’s your thing, there’s no wrong way to exercise and they all offer you the opportunity to encounter new people.

In Summary

You now have a few ideas about where to meet new people to consider. Now think about any blocks that may be stopping you from accessing them. A lack of self-confidence can make it hard to approach new people and while that’s a blog post for another day, identifying such activities and giving them a go is a brilliant first step.

Good luck!


When The Kids are in Bed 

It’s the summer holidays folks and you know what that means? A seven week juggle! Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely adore having the boys at home however I still have to work and when your office is at home that can take some keen organising and some rather weird working hours. I started work for example at 4am this morning.

Thankfully the boys go to a fabulous holiday scheme three days a week which is just around the corner which means the days that they aren’t here have to be fierce working days and when they aren’t there I’m found working from silly o’clock through to them getting up and the odd evenings too.

Now I wouldn’t change this for one minute, I gave up employment in favour of running my own business 9 years ago and have never looked back. It offers me the opportunity to do what I love while being completely flexible around the boys. That doesn’t mean though that I don’t find myself burning the candle from both ends sometimes.

The way I get through the juggle is to make sure that I have proper leisure time. Me time. I don’t necessarily need to leave the house (in fact I prefer not too – PJs at 7pm works well for me!). Me time is important though as it recharges the batteries and stops me from burning out.

How do I spend my me time?

With My Head in a Book

There’s nothing quite like  curling up with a good book and chilling out as my FB status last night shows..

Facebook status

I’m reading Not My Father’s Son by Alan Cumming at the moment which is a gripping read (look it up!). I’ll read from most genres, be it a romance, a sci-fi / fantasy book (I’m a bit of a geek), chick lit, autobiographies; whatever suits my mood and captures my interest and imagination.


I’m not sure you can call my hobby a hobby but for the want of a better label that’s all you’re getting. I am a stationery fiend, I get a lot of joy out of paper, stickers, good pens and the like. I’m also a keen organiser and planner. I put these two parts of me together and enjoy a variety of planner related hobbies sessions, from decorating my diary (Erin Condren Life Planner) to watching bullet journal videos on YouTube (more on this another time – I’ve finally found Planner Zen!).

I have been known to curl up on the sofa with YouTube on the big screen tuned into saved stationery, bullet journal-related or similar clips while being surrounded by paper goodies. What can I say, it makes me happy!

Hobbies, papercrafy, Erin Condren

The Big Screen

Talking of the big screen, like many the TV provides interest and relaxation. Roy and I record a number of shows on Sky+ to watch together and I’m a bit of a Netflix fan myself. Nothing got done until I reached the end of Sons of Anarchy recently. Like my reading matter I’m happy to watch a load of different types of shows.

I love period drama and similar so Anzac Girls, Downton Abbey, Call the Midwife and more futuristic shows so Falling Skies and of course anything Marvel related. I also have a bit of a thing for American dramas such as West Wing, House of Cards, Madam Secretary and The Good Wife. Obviously I don’t spent THAT much time watching TV but it’s great to have so many saved ready for me to watch either on my own or with Roy.

I am something of an XFactor fan too so look forward to seeing that restart in the Autumn (without Louie?). I’ve got quite good at weeding out the divas and picking winners so might even try something like the XFactor TV betting and put my money where my mouth is. If I win a bit back I’ll treat myself to some new slipper boots or a onesie for sloughing in front of the TV in!


Ok, so I don’t leave the house much of an evening but I do have plenty to occupy me in a relaxing way, to help me rewind and to make sure I have something to look forward to. That works for me, particularly during the work/family juggle over the summer and over other key holidays (apart rom Christmas where I take three whole weeks off to spend with my family!). How do you spent your “me” time?