Unwind Time


I had no idea until I became a mother and then started running my own business just how much stress a day could heap up me, both physically and mentally. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my life and wouldn’t change a thing however there are times when I think that if I don’t have some “me” time….

This last week or two alone I’ve had huge amounts of work all of a sudden (when I’m trying to empty the diary for half term next week), my next door neighbours are having their outside area renovated and a structure build (lots of drilling constantly and sandblasting from 8am of a morning until teatime, including Sunday!) and well, it’s all been so busy!

We’ve had Code Club for Kieran, the library for Taylor, the cake sale to bake for and attend, homework, work, we had people over for a local group we host every other Sunday so the house needed a good going over, an awkward client, an invoice that needed chasing up with a stern word… so much going on. There hasn’t been anything big or momentous, just lots of little things on top of the usual little things which have really bogged me down. Thankfully I have a supportive husband who gives me “The Look” when I’ve taken on too much or need to exhale properly and I’ve come to recognise that point in myself. That point where I need to say…




So I stopped and am looking to redress the balance a little, to wind down and if you like, find myself. Quite often when I do get to the point where a little self-love is needed I feel it physically as well as mentally. My muscles are tight, I might have shoulder, neck or back ache and headaches are pretty much a given.

For me a solo walk around the countryside is a welcome way for me to focus on me, as is yoga. Sometime simply lying in a dark room with headphones on and some favourite music can be enough to bring my stress levels down.  To address the physical side however I’d love to try something like Thai massage or an aromatherapy message (I believe scent can be a powerful thing).  By the end of the summer holidays, juggling being mum and working from home a deep muscle massage might in order (which is handy as the boys go back to school a day or so after my birthday so I might book myself in for a  massage or similar).

Once upon a time my younger self believed you could shake things off or that there was probably a pill for that ache or pain. My older, hopefully wiser self is a fan of the more holistic mind and body approach for every day wellness. This is something I need to look at more while looking after myself to stop the build-up of stress.

What do you do to unwind?


Mummy Stress

BC (before children), I had an extremely stressful job. I had responsibility for service users (adults with autism), and staff, worked ridiculously long, often unsociable hours. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my work. It was an opportunity to really make a difference but damn it was stressful! It was hard (almost impossible) not to take my work home, and after a few years that kind of pressure really does start to wear you down.

Now I am a Mummy. I have the best job in the world, the people I work with are the best imaginationable (ie my boys!), and workwise, I work for myself (ok the boss can be a bitch sometimes) but it’s not so bad. That said… it is still stressful! It’s just a different type of stress, it’s Mummy Stress!

  • Are my boys well?
  • Are my boys happy?
  • Am I doing right by them?
  • Is how we have chosen to raise them the best way, will they be the men I hope they will be?
  • Am I doing what I can to meet my work goals?
  • Will I be able to bring enough money in to continue to say at home and work?

It’s never ending. A Mummy’s / Daddy’s shift is 24hrs long and there are no scheduled breaks, no time when you can completely switch off.

It’s stressful sometimes, especially when you have other things going on around you. I wouldn’t swap my life for anything but it would be great every so often to have a change, a bit of complete “me” time, maybe a girlie day away with my sisters and mum, I’m thinking about cheap spa-breaks (I have to say pampering myself isn’t over high on the priority list – I’m lucky if I can get a quick shower with the door closed lol), or an all expenses paid day shopping somewhere nice with no rushing, buying stuff just for me (no uniform or kiddy shoe shopping).

Oh I wish!

Roy struggles for what to get me for my birthday so I am seriously tempted to ask for spa vouchers this year. I’m losing weight and by September I’m hoping to be nearer goal which means it’ll be time to start thinking about pampering and setting straight the rest of my body! Let me just say, eyebrows like a Russian shot-putter is not a good look! A bit of me time, where I can completely switch off (as long as I can ring home occasionally to check on everyone lol) is just what the stress-doctor ordered!

What about YOU?

What would you ask for if you could have a stress-reducing treat, how do you combat your Mummy/Daddy stress, either in a big way ie a day out or trip away, or in a small way like listening to music or reading. Do you have a guilty pleasure you utilise to wind down? What works for you? I’d love to know and I’m sure others would do. (You can casually leave your comment open for the other half to see…..).