What’s Sabotaging Your Confidence?

What’s Sabotaging Your Confidence?

Confidence is often misunderstood. In truth, confidence is merely the ability or propensity for feeling truly at home and happy within yourself, despite what might be going on around you or what other people might think of you. If you haven’t quite mastered this ability yet, you might want to look into what you can do to make it a reality. Work out what’s sabotaging your confidence and take action. In this article, I look at some of the best ways to do that, so you can be more confident in no time.

Not Being Happy With Your Appearance

There is a tricky concern to think about here. You don’t want to simply try to look like everyone else, or try to follow the fashions and ideas of attractiveness that the culture around you happens to have. That is no way to be confident in yourself, and it is only going to mean that you struggle to ever feel like yourself. That could mean dressing a certain way, straightening your teeth with Invisalign, or taking better care of your skin. Whatever it takes, be sure to do it.

Sabotaging Your Confidence? Past Experiences Can

If you have often struggled with issues of low self-esteem, then you might find that past experiences crop up again and again and haunt you in a manner which is not going to be very helpful. If you have lots of past experience of suffering embarrassment, then it is going to be even more difficult to make your confidence shine through. You need to allow yourself the permission to let all that past go, so that you can win through and be yourself as confidently as possible. In time, you’ll get there.

Being Out Of Touch With Yourself

Many of us are out of touch with our true nature, and when this happens it can make it much more difficult to be naturally confident in the way that you would hope to be. Being out of touch with yourself means that you are going to not know who you are trying to be, and with that confidence is going to be challenging indeed to bring about. So spend some time getting to know yourself as fully as you can – it will make a world of difference to your confidence levels.

Sabotaging Your Confidence? The Unkindness Of Others

Sometimes, you suffer with a lack of confidence because of other people putting you down or being unkind. This can happen at any age, and when it does you need to make sure that you are going to do whatever you can to rise above it. The more that you do so, the better you will feel about yourself, so it really is going to be important that you can do this. You should be able to respect yourself more and then enjoy a greater degree of confidence as a result of that increased respect.

Look Your Best: Wear a Smile

Look Your Best: Wear a Smile

My writing a “look your best” piece might seem like a bit of a push to be honest. If I leave the house looking almost symmetrical I call that a win. To be fair though, looking your best isn’t rocket science. It’s likely you’re pretty close to doing so now. If you believe the endless hordes of ideal-entertainment and fashion icon presentations, you might believe that you are anything but someone attractive and magnetic. I say “rubbish” to that.

There are simple changes to your look to make the best of it, some these are mentioned below but the full proof way to make yourself look your best is to feel your best.

Being Self-Assured

People often think that you must wear the highest quality clothes, or put your outfit together in the most perfect manner possible in order to look your best. This is often emphasized by the times in which we attend events, or go out to dinner. We want to look scrubbed up and exceptional in these moments, and we often feel like less of ourselves if we aren’t. However, if we had to keep this standard of excellence each and every time we dressed ourselves in the morning, we would quickly fall out of love with good clothing and feel it as more of a chore than a pleasure. This is where being self-assured comes into play.


Sure, your stonewashed jeans might be a year out of fashion. Sure, you have a tear or two in your layered shirt. OK, your hair might be longer than you usually keep it. But being self-assured and lessening your neuroticism about what makes a perfect outfit helps you wear one with character, and thus helps you look better than you ever might in a three-piece suit. It’s all about self-belief and confidence in yourself. When you have those under your belt, you can pull off any ensemble! I live in jeans and haven’t worn a skirt since my wedding day back in 2003. This goes against all fashion “rules” but I’ve made this look my own and it works for me.

Accessorising to Look Your Best

Accessories often make an outfit. We all have our own preferences when it comes to accessorising. Some wear jewellery, and some do not for example. Sometimes it is just a case of making sure what you do wear is well taken care of.   Having your watch strap replaced if it’s dirty or old, or heading to International Eyewear for a better range of frames for your face shape can all have an extremely profound effect on that which you hope to express, and generally help you feel more comfortable in how you look and feel, if that’s your goal.

I hear that “They” say that the best accessory you can wear is a smile and as cliche as this is, I think it makes a lot of sense. Don’t aim for something off the cat-walk, bit accessories that means something to you and which make you smile.

Trying New Things

The secret of styling is that it’s never static. It’s important to enjoy this fact when taking care of your own fashion options. Try new things out. Switch up your style. Never feel constrained to any one thing. Have comfortable hoodies and dress shirts. Don’t wear what other people expect of you just because your friends do, although of course working uniforms or dress codes are crucial to adhere to.

Give yourself the creative space to wear what you want. It helps reduce overthinking about fashion and helps you enjoy it instead. On top of that, you will build your own style in order to look your best with ease.

With these tips, you’re sure to find comfort and confidence in fashion, and this will help you look awesome, and most importantly feel awesome every day.