An Idiot’s Guide To Babywearing

Anyone recognise this model? 🙂

I am often asked why I came up with SnugBaby. Quite simply, I needed a comfortable sling, that could cope with my demands – easy to use, looked good, would last a while, husband could use it, and it could be washed!

When I had my first son, I admit I had never even heard of babywearing. We were given a structured front carrier, which we used for the two weeks we spent on holiday in Florida, when he was 12 weeks old, and then it was consigned to the cupboard. When we had SnugBoy#2, however, it was clear I needed to be able to keep him close, and happy, and look after SnugBoy#1, then 2 years old, aswell. I tried a sling, liked the concept, but the one I tried wasn’t very comfy. So I made my own, shaping it how I wanted it, adding padding, changing bits and making it my own. Babywearing was about to make my life a whole lot easier.

But, I hear a lot about people not knowing enough about babywearing to be able to make the choices they need to in order to have the sling they want. I am attempting to answer some of the more common ones here.

Do slings have age limits? Most slings, carriers, wraps and mei tais are suitable from birth, as long as they have a supportive headrest. If they don’t they may only be suitable from an age when baby can support their own head (usually around 4 months). The upper age limit varies from sling to sling, even within types. If they are tested to British Standards (and remember, not all are, so it’s worth checking) they will have an upper weight limit – which is usually anywhere between 12kg and 18kg. This is usually reached anywhere between 2 years and 4 years.

 Are they easy to use? Any reputable sling will come with instructions, to help you get to grips with them. Some look easier than others, but they all have their advantages and disadvantages.

What about the different carrying positions? Some slings can be used in many different ways – on your front, hip, back, lying down, facing out. Different positions take different amounts of practise, but after a few goes, most people find them all pretty straightforward to do. I find mei tais a great compromise between ease of use, and versatility.

Can I share it? Many slings are suitable for parents to share, with varying degrees of ease. A pouch sling is sized, usually by lady’s dress sizes, and is not usually easy to share between parents. Buckle slings and ring slings can be shared with some adjustment, whilst wraps and mei tais are easily shared, with no adjustments needed.

So, which is the best? That depends on what you want it for. If you want something that you can easily pop baby in and out of, with no tying and untying, don’t go for a wrap sling. You would be better with a pouch. If you want something comfortable for long periods, a two shoulder carrier, such as a mei tai, would be great. You need to think about what you will use it for.

But isn’t it a bit, well, hippyish? Well, I guess it falls under the “natural parenting” category, but for me it is all about convenience. Parenting is hard, and anything that makes my life as a mum easier, has got to be a good thing in my book.

So, for me there are loads of reasons to use a sling…

 

  • I can go places that I can’t go with a pushchair.
  • I can hold my eldest son’s hand at the same time as keeping SnugBoy#2 close.
  • I can easily walk the dog – hold the lead, walk across fields, and not run her over with a pushchair.
  • I can fold the sling up and pop it in my bag, and only get it out when SnugBoy#2 gets fed up of walking
  • I get to spend a lovely time chatting to SnugBoy#2, and he gets to see something other than knees.
  • SnugBoy#2 is safe, and close to me – especially important at busy holiday times, as it means there is no chance of me losing sight of him!

If you have any questions about slings, mei tais, carriers or wraps, please ask and I will do my best to answer them all for you.

Visit the the Snugbaby website where you can see more, including some fantastic videos which show you how to use a sling . You can find Claire herself on Twitter and Facebook and she is always ready to offer advice and answer questions (even my 30,000 didn’t seem to be an issue for her!).

* Yes, the lovely model in the picture above is none other than Claire Lancaster from CheshireMum.

Sleeptime Family Observations

Scribbled in a notebook whilst on holiday last week:

It’s nearly 10pm and Roy, Kieran and Taylor are all fast asleep. We are in our Travelodge on holiday so are all in the same room. I can’t sleep, it’s too hot, so I’m sat up and watching…

Taylor is in his travel cot, on his front. I hate it when he lies on his front as he has this awful habit of sleeping face down! He’s 8 months old now and is fine but I still don’t like it! Turning him is pointless, he’ll only grunt at me and roll back over. Taylor breathes so softly that when I check he is breathing (am I the only one who does breathing checks on the kids before sleep?), I end up tickling him in his sleep, just so he’ll move a little and reassure me. Looking at him lying here, stretched out, it hits me just how much he has grown already. Gah!

Kieran as usual has kicked his covers off and is trying to curl his hair with his fingers in his sleep. He is a big five year old now and has finished a whole year at “big school” already. Despite this, when I look at him now, looking so vulnerable in his sleep, I can see that he really is only a little boy still. Still my baby. I hope he stays like this for just a little while longer!

Last but not least, Roy! The first thing I notice is that he’s lost some weight! The poor man has been living on soup & mash for weeks now after extensive oral surgery. I’m making a mental note to feed him up! I’m out of bed and over at the desk and every so often he reaches out for me in his sleep, frowns, then turns over again. That is sweet!

My three men, sleeping quietly. So alike, yet so different! I wouldn’t change any of them. **

** This does not include Roy’s occasional snoringÂ