A Spa Break to Recharge You

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I have never been on a spa break. I know friends who have however I’ve always been put off by the idea of needing to look good in a bathing suit. I don’t. As it turns out spa breaks are less about being a supermodel and more about self-care. This is an area of my life that I need to concentrate on more.

I have been a freelance copywriter and blogger for over twelve years. The freelance lifestyle works for me, particularly from a family flexibility point of view. There are downsides to self-employment, namely no employer-paid annual leave. Of course, I set out every year to put pennies aside (you don’t work, you don’t get paid) and take “proper” breaks from work, let alone a spa break. I’m not great at following through. I always take a good break at Christmas however last week I looked at my diary and realised that Christmas 2017 was the last proper switched-off break I took.

Summer freelancing is always something of a juggle, however, I usually manage it ok by getting up at 4 am. I’m a natural early riser so this isn’t as terrible as it sounds. I usually work until 9am-ish (deep work) then have the day with the boys, finishing admin, emails and planning later in the day. In theory, this works brilliantly and affords me more downtime than I’m used to. It always has in the past.

My youngest broke his risk in spectacular fashion on the last day of term. This required a hospital sleepover, a surgery and a pin being put in. This has had a significant knock-on effect on our summer for various reasons. If I had prioritised my self-care, my holidays and my dedicated off-work time before now, I doubt this summer would have been so tiring! I have eye strain, backache, had my first vision-altering migraine a few weeks ago followed by ten days of mild but tiring headaches. This isn’t a result of just a difficult summer though, this is down to poor self-maintenance.

The Husband has convinced me that I need to prioritise self-care. I know this. I completed a diploma in spa breakmindfulness at the beginning of the year, however, have let things slip. I’m considering a short break at a spa (some of the treatments look and sounds wonderful), we’re going to arrange more date nights/days out, I’m going to switch off the phone and laptop more. I’m already spending more time painting miniatures with the husband. Next summer we are going away on a PROPER break to my favourite Scottish coastal hideaway. I am going to spend time on recharging me for a change. I’m looking forward to it.

Do you forget your own wellbeing when it comes to self-care and taking breaks? How do you recharge? Do you run, book a spa break, fall into a good book or book a night away? I’d love to hear!

 

Time Out for Parents

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We only have two more sleeps until the boys finish for the summer holidays and I can’t wait. I love having them at home and dread the end of the holidays as they all-too-quickly approach. Time out as a family is important however time out for us as parents is something that shouldn’t be ignored or put aside either.

I once joked to friends when the children were younger that I could make a fortune if I were to open a small hotel exclusively set up for parents to take turns to come and relax and decompress for a night. Parenting can be demanding, as fabulous as it is, and sometimes time out for parents is a must.

Sadly I don’t own a small hotel and am not earning my early retirement from parents looking for some Peppa Pig time however if you are serious about taking some self-care time out for you, consider these ways to do it.

Use Your Annual Leave

Holidays are usually saved up to cover the school holidays and so on. What if for once, they weren’t? Try and take a day off just for you while children are at school or in childcare (or with a willing sitter) and just spend time on you. Roy and I started doing this years ago and we love it. We go out for lunch or breakfast, curl up and watch movies, go for a walk or similar. Nothing flash, nothing fancy, but something much needed and appreciated.

Find a Babysitter

A trusted babysitter is worth his or her weight in gold. Having someone who can look after your child/children so that you may go away for a night or even just an evening enables you to spend some time together as a couple or time out for yourself. Try and schedule some time out regularly, even if it’s just to get out of the work/home cycle for a few hours for a meal at a local restaurant.

Join a Club

Go to karate, join a Dungeons and Dragons RPG group or find a fun book club. Find something that takes you away from home for a few hours, enables you to spend time doing something you love with people you like. Again, dedicating that little bit of self-care for yourself is something you should do and something you deserve.

Relax on a Cruise Holiday

This takes my parent hotel idea and cranks it up a notch or ten. We have plans when the boys are older to get out there and enjoy more us time. More than an evening or a night away (we haven’t done a night away together for them yet and the eldest is twelve, we must try harder). Whether we go for a tour de Britain in a campervan or decide on something more luxurious such as a cruise holiday, time will tell.

Get Others on Board

Finding a sitter, finding the time (and the energy) to organise a night out and then going through the motions of getting dressed, packed and so on is often what puts parents off and results in another cancelled night out. It’s tiring being a parent and doing all the other things that adults need to do. Enlist other parents who understand the problem on board, meet up together or babysit for each other. Be accountable for each other and make sure no-one cancels their valuable night or day out without very good cause!

As parents we do an important job. It’s the worst-paid job imaginable, the hours are terrible and our managers can be harsh. That said, we wouldn’t change it for the world. As long as we take the time to recharge our own batteries from time to time, we’ll hopefully all come out of the parenting experience intact.