If We Got Married Again

Roy and I are coming up to our fourteenth wedding anniversary. FOURTEEN YEARS! Our wedding was lovely, magical and has provided us with so many memories.

We talk sometimes about renewing our vows and Roy especially wants to whisk me off somewhere sunny to do it (probably for our twentieth). We also talk about how we would get married if we could choose again. We’re not saying that we didn’t love our wedding as it was however if we were to get married today we’d do things differently. For example:

The Photographer
Our wedding photos aren’t very good. We hired a budget photographer, didn’t do enough research and felt the guy who took our photos didn’t actually listen to what we wanted on the day. They aren’t awful, they just aren’t very good and as such, they are in an album in a cupboard somewhere. We don’t have a decent bride and groom photo we could put up on the wall. We’d definitely do better with this next time.

Location
We married here in Thirsk, our home and the place we love. We married in the gorgeous local church. It’s hard to imagine marrying anywhere different to this and it was so right for us at the time, however, we have joked about eloping and a few of our family have gone off and got married by themselves and it seems very romantic, and a lot simpler!

Food
We had a lovely “proper” dinner when we were married, a carvery type thing and it was great. When my sister was married years later she had a barbeque. With hindsight, I think that would be great, or a pizza and pasta type of thing. I love pasta. Yes, definitely pasta.

Theme
We didn’t have a theme as such but boy would be if we were to get married again now. Even then we wanted a fantasy-style wedding but it never really came off. Think Dungeons&Dragons, meets elves, meets more dragons and you’ll be close. I think I would make an awesome elven princess.

Memories
As before, our official photos weren’t brilliant although there were some fun snaps taken by other people. We’d definitely veer more towards this sort of thing the second time around. I love the idea of an open photo booth (rather than trying to squeeze people into a box) and being able to laugh at and share funny and awesome photos after the fact.

Flowers
Our flowers were absolutely gorgeous on the day and worked perfectly with our colour scheme. If we were to get married again we’d love the same lady to do our flowers. We’d maybe choose different flowers though, to fit into our fantasy theme.

Honeymoon
We went to the most amazing place for our honeymoon, Findhorn in North Scotland. You really have to know the place to really appreciate it. I lived nearby as a young child and going back and sharing it with Roy was amazing. He loves the place. I think this time, however, we’d skip the romantic horse riding lesson which resulted in an allergic reaction that had me looking like the elephant man and in A&E at one point.
Yup, we’d miss that out.

Your wedding day is just one day however it should be a great day, a fun day, a memorable day and should be how you want it to be.
Would you change anything about your wedding day?

How Cultured Are You?

According to Google the above definition of being cultured basically backs up the findings of some rather amusing research commissioned on behalf of MSC Cruise. Basically, we Brits apparently fib a little in order to appear more cultured, for example saying we’ve read books, seen plays and similar. Talk about keeping up with the Jones’. Do we really do that? A survey of 1500 people indicated that yes, some of us do.

To me reading books, making time to watch films, visit places and enjoy new experiences is all about enjoyment and broadening my horizons as opposed to having something clever sounding to put on Facebook. Perhaps social media has had a hand in this one-upmanship, the need to appear more cultured when really, being cultured is not something that can be measured, nor should it be.

 For me, indeed for us as a family the thirst for new experiences and knowledge is something that is part of us, the way we are forms part of our family dynamic. To me travelling, for example with Caribbean Cruises who offer a unique way to experience difference cultures in an easy away, being able to visit a number of place on short trips off the ship before moving on is a great way to experience something new. This enables you to plan ahead and visit what is really important to you (and to research the real best places to visit rather than just the tourist spots).

For me joining the local library is a great way to learn more, through fiction and non-fiction. We are big readers and enjoy discussing what we’ve learned. Last week I went with my Mum and sister to a talk on the local area hosted by the local museum. It was fascinating and I was buzzing when we left, eager to come home and share what I’d learned. THAT is what “being cultured” is, experiencing the experiences because you want to, because they excite you and because you want to share them with your nearest and dearest. I can’t see any benefit to pretending to have seen something, done something or been somewhere to look good.

Perhaps it’s just me? What do you think?