I am Good Enough

Good Enough

At this time of year, people start to think about New Year resolutions, personal goals and such-like. We’ve all done it, even if we’ve called it something else. We’ll be thinner, smarter, more sociable, we’ll work harder and generally be better versions of ourselves. This year I’m taking a step back from all of this. This year I am saying that I am good enough.

I am good enough! I’m not at my ideal weight. I’ve not reached ultimate productivity status. My hair will never be tamed. I won’t walk 10,000 steps every day. I don’t need to be better. I just need to be me.

Accepting who I am has made me happier. I’m not so bad you know. I’m a great Mum, a darn good wife and I try to be a good friend. I can be funny and cheeky. I run a successful business and I’ve set up monthly sessions to help other freelancers who suffer from isolation. I do what I can to support local businesses and community causes. I am proud of our little town. I am more mindful. I concentrate on the important stuff. I make a mean slow cooked lasagne. I can make people smile. People feel they can come to me for advice or just a hug. I give good hugs. I am kind. 

I am not simply good enough. I’m bloody marvellous! I’m fabulous and this year I’m not piling impossible expectations onto myself. This year I am saying….

Nicki… You are good enough. You do not need improvement. Have a spectacular 2018.

Try saying the same to yourself. There’s nothing wrong with striving for success, trying something new or self-improvement, not at all. Starting any of these processes with a healthy dollop of self-awareness though is important. This New Year, before you think about writing down your goals and promises to yourself and to others just at least take a minute or two to think about everything you are, can do, are all about. It can be quite the eye-opener and once you embrace all of that, you will feel blooming fabulous.

I AM ENOUGH!

 

My Perfect: Finding a Little Good in Each Day

Hands up if you’ve ever had a truly rubbish day…..

My Perfect

What if you’re unlucky and have had a series of rubbish days? These things start to bog you down. They make you tired, you feel low and it may become harder and harder to see the positives that are going on around you because you’re too busy wallowing or fighting through the negatives.

my perfectThis is where the My Perfect journal comes in. The brainchild of Ali Gill, this fun journal merges calming colouring (if you want to) with actively searching out a positive or a perfect in every day. I have this journal and have to say that once you’ve started using it, you subconsciously seek out something good in your day or even several somethings. It changes your outlook and encourages you to be more mindful of what is truly going on around you. 

Take last week for instance. I spent most of it in a mad panic as Christmas is fast approaching and I have a ridiculous amount of work to do. I have a bad foot and it ached with the cold pretty much all of the time, everyone seemed to be getting grumpy and a load of bills hit my doormat. All in all, a pretty crappy week. Or was it? T had a fabulous week at school, K was happy, I had a lovely breakfast catch-up with friends and one had fabulous news. I enjoyed a lovely half an hour with just me and my book and another fab morning with a super friend and her daughter. By focusing on the positives and recording them I was able to completely change the way my week went, and how I felt about it.

I’m now entering a ridiculously busy week. I finish for Christmas at midnight (and it will be midnight!) on Thursday. I have a ridiculous amount of work to do, still have some Christmas stuff to sort, it’s still cold and I have to fit a hair appointment in too. I’m already seeing the potential perfects for the week ahead. I know that when I finish piece of work x,y or z that I’m going to feel great. I’m excited about Christmas. My hair appointment might be time out of the working day but the salon I go to treats everyone as a VIP and rather than simply a haircut it’s an opportunity for some pampering.

My perfect

All of this from a journal? Yes, actually! There’s flexibility in how you use My Perfect, however, I would say try and do something daily as doing so helps you form a positive habit. I’m a complete stationery tart as many of you know and this journal just feels nice! I’m not a big one for colouring however even I’ve been tempted to doodle and colour a little. On days where I haven’t, that’s ok too. There are no rules, it’s all about creating a bank of perfects for you to reflect on in the present and to look back on in the future.

If you are looking for a gift for yourself or for anyone else the  My Perfect Journal is available via Amazon and is a wonderful treat, worth everything penny and many more asides.

*I was sent a review copy of this journal and fell in love with it. I’ve already mentioned it in my stationery gift guide but decided to do a bigger write-up, purely because I rate it so highly. Be assured that any reviews I do, I write up based on my experiences only, and nothing is written from a brand crib-sheet or similar.