From Virgin To Keen Advocate! #babywearing

With Kieran I didn’t get the whole babywearing thing. We had a carrier from a top brand which was all plastic bits and adjustable straps and quite frankly a faff! Slings and whatnot seemed a bit hippy-ish so I veered away and can’t say I felt like I missed out.

The Aphrodite Deluxe Baby Sling £65.99, comes complete with a tote bag for storage & full instructions.

Perhaps because I am older and Taylor is my second child, I wanted to try again. When Claire from Snugbaby offered to send me a baby sling I thought “Why not” and before I knew it, it was here. Now what? I have this beautiful plastic-less sling and a baby. Simple one would think but I just couldn’t get going with it. It was the weather you see, Taylor was so young he needed to be wrapped up and encased in his pram, then it was his snowsuit – it made the sling hard to put on because he was too bulky. All excuses. It was more about confidence or my lack of confidence. I decided to stop piddling about and give it a go. With the sling came a wealth of information on safe use and how to use the sling and a handy video shows you step by step how to tie it.

I gave it a tentative go… I liked it! And more to the point, so did Taylor! Outside, no raincover, close to me but still able to see around. I got to the end of my drive, past the end of the street and home. It just didn’t feel “right”. Back inside I took some pictures and emailed Claire with them and my worries. Very quickly I received an indepth reply, with handy hints for making sure baby was secure, that I was comfy etc and following these tips, and with a few practices in front of a mirror I was ready.

First trip was the mile long walk to Roy’s walk on the first lovely spring day we had to “pick him up”, Kieran and I strolled hand in hand, talking about his day at school and what he’d done whilst Taylor, wide eyed, coo’ed and smiled. It was fantastic – a mile there and a mile back and because of the way the sling supports Taylor and me, I didn’t feel like I’d been carrying any weight if that makes sense? Two mile endurance trip – easy!

The second real test was the scariest – the school run! Anyone who has ever done a school run knows how self-conscience you can feel! So going with Taylor in a sling (I haven’t ever seen anyone carrying on the school run before) was pretty scary but I enjoyed it so much on our walk out that I decided to stop being a wimp, Taylor snuggled and my head high off I went. I got a lot of attention, but not the kind I was half expected. No “You’ve tied that wrong” or “That doesn’t look right” but “That is gorgeous! Where did you get it?”, “How lovely to see Taylor up and awake, he is usually asleep in his pram!” and “That looks so much nicer than the X branded one I got which was all plastic connectors and what not – is it comfy?”. So many questions and positive remarks. I found myself, in the school yard, yammering away about the benefits of babywearing, how to use the sling and how much we both enjoy it. Victory!!!

Now I realise I’ve wasted precious babywearing time, but no more! When the weather permits we will be out and about, Taylor upright and soaking in all the sights and I can’t wait for the summer when we start walking again, up in the North Yorkshire Moors, having picnics and adventuring – because with the sling, I am free to go where I like.

Babywearing comes easy to some, it didn’t me, but seeing the fantastic pictures on snugbaby.co.uk and having the support of Claire to work through my niggles has been great and Taylor & I can enjoy our closeness, alongside the convenience that BW brings.

Thank you Claire and Snugbaby! You’ll all no doubt be hearing more about my BW adventures, so keep tuned, but in the meantime please check out the Snugbaby site for easy to understand info on the benefits of babywearing, slings and more.

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**Please note, I was sent a sling to try and keep, and review if I wanted to, if I decided not to I was given instructions for how to donate the sling to a baby charity. This is my honest and open representation of my experiences of Snugbaby & babywearing.

Don’t Criticise My Parenting Choices! I Won’t Apologise!

One of the biggest lessons I’ve found since becoming a Mum is that suddenly everyone is an expert and so keen to criticise your parenting choices! This saddens me more than you know.

I am a bottle-feeder, I haven’t fed on demand, I put my two boys into their own cots in their own rooms from day one, I don’t attend Baby Massage and I weaned my eldest at 3.5months (& it wasn’t baby-led weaning either!). I decided to go back to work full-time (therefore abandoning my child), but changed my mind and stayed at home instead (avoiding the opportunity to instil a firm work ethic into my child).

Shocked?

We were told that we may not ever be able to conceive after a diagnosis of PCOS but we don’t like being told what we can or can’t do. Early in 2005 we fell pregnant but it wasn’t to be. We were devastated to say the least. When I fell pregnant again later that year I daren’t breathe for the first 4 months but after that we settled into thinking about motherhood and how we wanted to raise our child/ren. We decided that we wanted to bottle feed. I wanted Roy (the long-suffering husband) to have as much to do with the feeding process as possible, the idea of expressing horrified me (if anyone even glanced at my chest during pregnancy the “girls” started to throb), and to be honest, it just didn’t appeal to me. Perhaps it’s the control freak in me but I like knowing how many ounces have been taken.

Well… I would have got a less fierce/shocked/disappointed response to “I’m a heroin addict and sell myself at the weekend to fund my habit” than the reaction to “I’ve decided to bottle-feed” from some quarters! And some of these people were “friends”! Don’t I know breast is best? Of course I do, and don’t get me wrong I think breastfeeding is the most beautiful and nurturing thing going – it just wasn’t for me.

Putting the boys into their own rooms… when Kieran was born, this was more of a room issue than anything else but as we were adjoining and in a bungalow, it was never an issue as he was only a few feet away. When Taylor was born, we had moved but the room is still next door – and again, he has settled fantastically from day one. In fact both boys slept through from an early age, Kieran at 3.5wks and Taylor at 7wks (and no, this was not why I chose to bottle-fed etc, I have found myself explaining again and again).

 

Both boys are thriving. The Health Visitor told me at 5 months that Kieran was perfect, “absolutely thriving” were her words, and asked if I’d thought about weaning yet. When I explained this started at 3.5months she chuckled and said “Well, I can’t say a thing to that can I? He was clearly ready!” And he was. Taylor, is (gulp) nearly 16 weeks and nowhere near ready for weaning, each to their own.

Throughout Kieran’s early days I got plenty of comments about my choices, and would back away, find myself making excuses or mumbling but those days have passed. I have two happy & healthy boys. I am confident that the choices I have made have been the right ones for us, and I won’t apologise for them. Most Mums have been subjected to criticism at some point or other (for those of you with babies only – just wait until your toddler has their first meltdown in Tescos! EVERYONE has a comment for you then lol) and I don’t think that will ever change really. My message to you all is to stick to your guns (assuming your parenting style does not involve ritual beatings) and don’t get caught up in it all. Celebrate your family and enjoy every minute of them, they grow so quickly!

**I wrote this post originally for Emma over at TheRealSupermum & to be honest was overwhelmed by the fantastic response from her readers  (please do pop over and have a read!) and Emma was more than happy for me to repost it here so I could share it with you good people!