Time Out for Parents

time out

We only have two more sleeps until the boys finish for the summer holidays and I can’t wait. I love having them at home and dread the end of the holidays as they all-too-quickly approach. Time out as a family is important however time out for us as parents is something that shouldn’t be ignored or put aside either.

I once joked to friends when the children were younger that I could make a fortune if I were to open a small hotel exclusively set up for parents to take turns to come and relax and decompress for a night. Parenting can be demanding, as fabulous as it is, and sometimes time out for parents is a must.

Sadly I don’t own a small hotel and am not earning my early retirement from parents looking for some Peppa Pig time however if you are serious about taking some self-care time out for you, consider these ways to do it.

Use Your Annual Leave

Holidays are usually saved up to cover the school holidays and so on. What if for once, they weren’t? Try and take a day off just for you while children are at school or in childcare (or with a willing sitter) and just spend time on you. Roy and I started doing this years ago and we love it. We go out for lunch or breakfast, curl up and watch movies, go for a walk or similar. Nothing flash, nothing fancy, but something much needed and appreciated.

Find a Babysitter

A trusted babysitter is worth his or her weight in gold. Having someone who can look after your child/children so that you may go away for a night or even just an evening enables you to spend some time together as a couple or time out for yourself. Try and schedule some time out regularly, even if it’s just to get out of the work/home cycle for a few hours for a meal at a local restaurant.

Join a Club

Go to karate, join a Dungeons and Dragons RPG group or find a fun book club. Find something that takes you away from home for a few hours, enables you to spend time doing something you love with people you like. Again, dedicating that little bit of self-care for yourself is something you should do and something you deserve.

Relax on a Cruise Holiday

This takes my parent hotel idea and cranks it up a notch or ten. We have plans when the boys are older to get out there and enjoy more us time. More than an evening or a night away (we haven’t done a night away together for them yet and the eldest is twelve, we must try harder). Whether we go for a tour de Britain in a campervan or decide on something more luxurious such as a cruise holiday, time will tell.

Get Others on Board

Finding a sitter, finding the time (and the energy) to organise a night out and then going through the motions of getting dressed, packed and so on is often what puts parents off and results in another cancelled night out. It’s tiring being a parent and doing all the other things that adults need to do. Enlist other parents who understand the problem on board, meet up together or babysit for each other. Be accountable for each other and make sure no-one cancels their valuable night or day out without very good cause!

As parents we do an important job. It’s the worst-paid job imaginable, the hours are terrible and our managers can be harsh. That said, we wouldn’t change it for the world. As long as we take the time to recharge our own batteries from time to time, we’ll hopefully all come out of the parenting experience intact.

 

A Sanity Saving SmartSign Design

When the SmartSign blogger challenge popped up on HIBS100 I knew straight away which sign I would be looking for.

We’re moving house next month (in the middle of the summer holidays with no childcare, while working from home – send cake) and so have a sign in mind.
Is it a family rules sign? No!
A “Beware those who dare to enter” for my pre-teen’s new room? No (although this might not be a bad idea)!
Perhaps something with a quote like “Sorry about the mess, my children are making memories”? No, sorry.

What am I looking for?
A miracle. It’s a miracle I’m looking for. You see, I am slightly outnumbered in my house. There is little old me, then are three boys (two boys and a husband).What I’m looking for, is a pee-free bathroom.

 This is the look of a mother who is frazzled, worn down and quite frankly worn out…. by boy pee. Parents of boys will feel my pain. I thought that a handy sign would remind my cherubs to WIPE THE DAMN SEAT so I that I wouldn’t have to yell “HAVE YOU WIPED AND FLUSHED?” up the stairs who be a wise choice. I’m pretty sure when I yell right now using my stern Mum voice that our current gentleman neighbour sits down to pee. I’m hoping to make a more refined impression on the new neighbours, at least for a little while until they really get to know us and so I put this sign together…

They’re not going to be able to ignore that looking down on them, are they? We can but hope!
I was quite tickled, on browsing SmartSign closer to find that great minds think alike as they have a similar sprinkle tinkle sign. If I’m chosen as a winner of this fab comp (this post is an entry into the #MyCustomSign www.smartsign.com blogger challenge) I would ask them to make mine up to fit with my decor for the new house or design one similar perhaps without the disapproving dog looking down (see below).

 

What do you think? It’s a winner, right? 

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