Self Confidence Boosting Tips


Confidence can significantly affect your overall quality of life. Confident individuals tend to be happier and more content. Now, some of us just aren’t naturally confident. We worry, doubt ourselves, and are often overly critical of ourselves. I’m not talking about being an introvert, that is something entirely different. I’m talking about a lack of self-confidence which can have a knock-on effect in many areas of your life.

The good news is that you can take steps in your life to boost your confidence levels. Here are just a couple to try out yourself although they are the tip of the iceberg. I’d love to hear some of your self-confidence pick me ups.

Be Aware of the Artifice of Social Media

Social media can be extremely detrimental when it comes to your levels of self-confidence. Why? Well, we tend to only portray our lives in the best light possible on social media. The majority of people will only post the positive aspects of our lives, the most fun things that we are doing, and attractive photographs of ourselves. We leave out the negative details and occurrences. A surprising number of people also highly edit their photos to look more stereotypically attractive than they may look in real life, and stage photos that make it look like they’re doing things that they might not necessarily be doing. So, you can’t compare your life as you know it to the lives that others are consciously curating and coating in artifice. If you feel that your life isn’t levelling up to those of others you follow on social media, remember that everyone has arguments, everyone has difficulties, and nobody looks perfectly photoshopped in person. Don’t put these expectations on yourself.

Wear Nice Underwear

The majority of us wear whichever underwear happens to be the comfiest. However, this often results in us wearing the same few pairs time and time again. This results in them looking a little worse for wear as time passes by, and more often that not, they probably weren’t the most flattering items to start with. Believe it or not, many women claim that the underwear that they choose to put on in the morning can significantly affect their self-confidence throughout the day. There’s just something empowering that lies in wearing appealing undergarments, even if nobody else ever sees them! So, sift through your underwear drawer, donate old and battered pairs to recycling clothes banks (that can put the materials to better use), and invest in some new panache lingerie. As someone who practically lives in M&S belly grabbers, this point is a significant one for me. I need to invest in some nice, comfortable and *gasp* matching undies that make me feel good.

Implement a Thorough Skincare Routine

This is a self-care tip as well as a self-confidence one. For years I neglected my night-time routine however just feel so much better for prioritising this. The glowing skin you will have as a result of a decent skin care routine will be more than worth the effort. Invest in a high-quality face wash, toner, and moisturiser composed of natural, organic, cruelty-free ingredients and don’t forget to take your makeup off before going to bed, no matter how tired you may be!

Practice Self Confidence

This might sound odd but the more you put yourself out there, the easier for most people it gets. Join in with a conversation, share your views in a meeting, join a group. Work hard on identifying the areas you struggle with and hit them hard.

These are just a few different steps that you can try out when it comes to boosting your confidence levels. They are relatively easy to implement into your attitude and routine. So give them a try! You have nothing to lose!

A Spa Break to Recharge You

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I have never been on a spa break. I know friends who have however I’ve always been put off by the idea of needing to look good in a bathing suit. I don’t. As it turns out spa breaks are less about being a supermodel and more about self-care. This is an area of my life that I need to concentrate on more.

I have been a freelance copywriter and blogger for over twelve years. The freelance lifestyle works for me, particularly from a family flexibility point of view. There are downsides to self-employment, namely no employer-paid annual leave. Of course, I set out every year to put pennies aside (you don’t work, you don’t get paid) and take “proper” breaks from work, let alone a spa break. I’m not great at following through. I always take a good break at Christmas however last week I looked at my diary and realised that Christmas 2017 was the last proper switched-off break I took.

Summer freelancing is always something of a juggle, however, I usually manage it ok by getting up at 4 am. I’m a natural early riser so this isn’t as terrible as it sounds. I usually work until 9am-ish (deep work) then have the day with the boys, finishing admin, emails and planning later in the day. In theory, this works brilliantly and affords me more downtime than I’m used to. It always has in the past.

My youngest broke his risk in spectacular fashion on the last day of term. This required a hospital sleepover, a surgery and a pin being put in. This has had a significant knock-on effect on our summer for various reasons. If I had prioritised my self-care, my holidays and my dedicated off-work time before now, I doubt this summer would have been so tiring! I have eye strain, backache, had my first vision-altering migraine a few weeks ago followed by ten days of mild but tiring headaches. This isn’t a result of just a difficult summer though, this is down to poor self-maintenance.

The Husband has convinced me that I need to prioritise self-care. I know this. I completed a diploma in spa breakmindfulness at the beginning of the year, however, have let things slip. I’m considering a short break at a spa (some of the treatments look and sounds wonderful), we’re going to arrange more date nights/days out, I’m going to switch off the phone and laptop more. I’m already spending more time painting miniatures with the husband. Next summer we are going away on a PROPER break to my favourite Scottish coastal hideaway. I am going to spend time on recharging me for a change. I’m looking forward to it.

Do you forget your own wellbeing when it comes to self-care and taking breaks? How do you recharge? Do you run, book a spa break, fall into a good book or book a night away? I’d love to hear!


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