I have two beautiful boys. Kieran is 5yrs old and Taylor is 10m. They are just perfect, brilliant, wonderful! They make me laugh and cry (usually after stepping on Lego to be fair), and I wouldn’t swap them for anything.
Clearly however, my family isn’t complete, certainly not for everyone else. You see, I haven’t got a girl. Shame on me! It appears two boys isn’t “quite” right. And surely I want a girl, seeing as I am one? And if not a girl, another baby would be nice wouldn’t it?
No it bloody wouldn’t. As far as we are concerned our family is complete. I fought long and hard through fertility problems to conceive both of them and wear my battle scars proudly. I am a Mum, a position much sought after believe me, but I’ve made it and I believe I’m done. I don’t feel the ache any more. The pull towards having another child. I look at the boys, and I look at us as a family and I think “We’ve cracked it!”. I am content.
When being asked, several times a day, and often more than once a week by the same people, when I am having my next one, I answer politely that I’m quite happy as I am. I often get the standard response..
“Oh that won’t last, you’ll be ready for another soon!”.
Yes it’s chit-chat mostly but occasionally it appears more, as if I am letting the side down by not continually producing babies. People assume because I’m from a bigger family, I will be wanting a big family myself. Being part of a big family was and is bloody fantastic! I was one of six siblings and I wouldn’t change a thing about it. Since becoming a mother myself I have quickly become to realise that my Mum must be some kind of modest saint with six of us to raise.
We are comfortable, we all fit nicely in the house, we have our own space, and we are ok financially. Another child would stretch us to be honest. All very cold and practical but that’s life. What we have works, we work and we are happy.
We don’t NEED another child, nothing is missing.
Just thought I’d clear that up for everyone.