I Don’t Know How She Does It! #Book Review

I don’t know how she does it! By Allison Pearson.

I have veered away from any interviews with SJP or reviews of the film. I gather that some people thought it was a bit OTT and not a great or even accurate picture of a working mother. I on the other hand thoroughly enjoyed the book. The great thing about reading over films is that you perceive things more individually, you picture the characters, the expressions, the places and the feelings differently.

Kate Reddy, who is a mother of two small children, who finds herself jetting around the world for work, constantly rearranging lunch with her best friend because she is so busy, loving her job although spending more time than enough feeling the need to prove herself as a professional still despite the fact that she has to do pelvic floor muscles.

Kate loves her work, doesn’t feel that she is someone or even herself if not working yet hurts terribly when she sees that her nanny knows more about the kids than she does. Some parts of the books are quite amusing and had me nodding in sympathy or running off to add things to my own ongoing to-do lists like Kate does. Other parts made me feel rather sad.

This book is a blown up / exaggerated version of many women’s lives. Not many of us are jest setting around the world, screaming at our husband because we feel so guilty, missing birth parties and having our breasts oggled because we are seen as Mumsy types in the workplace, but many do feel the pinch of the juggle between life and work and feel the guilt.

I work from home full-time and I struggle sometimes with the juggling act, I imagine parents working outside the home feel much the same at times. Do you?

This is a book that I think you have to read and decide about yourself. I’d definitely say book before movie (I always do!), because I really believe that’s the best way to explore a story. If you’ve read it, tell me what you think.

I don’t know how she does it is published by Vintage Books, has a RRP of £7.99 and is available at all good bookshop and also on Amazon (£4.99 at the time of publishing this post).

When are you having your next one?

I have two beautiful boys. Kieran is 5yrs old and Taylor is 10m. They are just perfect, brilliant, wonderful! They make me laugh and cry (usually after stepping on Lego to be fair), and I wouldn’t swap them for anything.

Clearly however, my family isn’t complete, certainly not for everyone else. You see, I haven’t got a girl. Shame on me! It appears two boys isn’t “quite” right. And surely I want a girl, seeing as I am one? And if not a girl, another baby would be nice wouldn’t it?

No it bloody wouldn’t. As far as we are concerned our family is complete. I fought long and hard through fertility problems to conceive both of them and wear my battle scars proudly. I am a Mum, a position much sought after believe me, but I’ve made it and I believe I’m done. I don’t feel the ache any more. The pull towards having another child. I look at the boys, and I look at us as a family and I think “We’ve cracked it!”. I am content.

When being asked, several times a day, and often more than once a week by the same people, when I am having my next one, I answer politely that I’m quite happy as I am. I often get the standard response..

“Oh that won’t last, you’ll be ready for another soon!”.

Yes it’s chit-chat mostly but occasionally it appears more, as if I am letting the side down by not continually producing babies. People assume because I’m from a bigger family, I will be wanting a big family myself. Being part of a big family was and is bloody fantastic! I was one of six siblings and I wouldn’t change a thing about it. Since becoming a mother myself I have quickly become to realise that my Mum must be some kind of modest saint with six of us to raise.

We are comfortable, we all fit nicely in the house, we have our own space, and we are ok financially. Another child would stretch us to be honest. All very cold and practical but that’s life. What we have works, we work and we are happy.

We don’t NEED another child, nothing is missing.

Just thought I’d clear that up for everyone.